Suspended

....you seem to keep forgetting other options, options which could both keep everyone more safe and not have you screwing yourself in the end, Dianna.

Such as reporting threats if someone says they are going to beat someone up. Directly, immediately, and without doing the same thing that person was about to go do. If it's not okay for them to do it, doesn't make it okay for you to, either. Such as reporting sexual harassment in language (though since you're using the same language at others yourself, to teachers no less, that'd sure thake the credibility out of you complaining about it.) But more to the point, the way you keep not-managing this stuff and the mess it keeps getting you in should make it obvious that you've either got to learn different ways of managing things, or accept that in pretty much all things like this, you're going to be ineffectual and only make things more difficult for yourself, without making them any easier on the people you care about, either.

You're smart: you gotta know this stuff. And if you know and you keep choosing to react this way, rather than going ahead and taking the steps to resolve conflict in line with your school's policies (and with the teachers and admins being in charge, not you)? Then babe, I gotta be straight with you: you're choosing these results, knwoing what they will be, and this isn't about anyone not getting it but you.

I have a question, why would you call your french teacher a "crack whore" and then react violently when you were called a whore?

And also, do you feel that Teachers react differently to girls fighting than to boys at your school? I know that there is a double standard at most schools and there certainly was at mine.

...why, at a site for women, to support and advocate for women and women's equality, would you even post about calling ANY woman a "crack whore?" You keep claiming to be color-blind and advocate for women, and yet you think it's comical to call a woman a racist, classist quip...though apparently it's NOT comical when someone calls you same?

Dianna....come ON.

I don't know how they react to boys fighting, because most of the kids who fight at my school are girls, anyway.
Last time I looked, I didn't say anything racist to her. I wouldn't.
The thing is-telling at just a minor threat? He didn't say it, but he certainly looked like he was about to do something. I think, in my mindset, telling on him at that point would've been wrong. I also have a certain opinion about when it is and when it is not alright to tell, and just a bit of fighting usually isn't any concern, but still...
Anyway, the whole whore thing, I don't really care. I don't care what people say about me-but there's a reputation. I mean, that was the entire reason I did it. I have a reputation to keep up. I don't know why, but I'm convinced it's the easier one to work with; popular kids always seem to get betrayed and the whimpy kids get beaten, same with normal outcasts.

...then it's pretty darn shifty to say to us and the readers here that it's about protecting your friends, wouldn't you say?

And per why "crack whore" is a racist comment, overwhelmingly, there are more minority drug-addicted prostitutes in the world than those who are white (which is always a tragic given of any oppressed class: everything hits harder, and addictions of various sorts in an attempt to cope are no exception). That particular jibe comes from racist intentions. So yes, you did say something racist to her. Something sexist, to boot.

And I have to be frank: I don't believe for a minute you don't care what people say or think about you, especially when what comes from the other side of your face is a need to protect your reputation. You're contradicting yourself. Again.

In any event, if you choose, actively, to participate in crappy systems when you have a choice, then it's ultimately lazy and irresponsible to point fingers at the system. If you know you make choices that get you into trouble and have certain consequences, and that other options are out there, you just opt out of exercising them? Then this isn't about how anyone else is screwing up. This is about you screwing up, if all of that is frustrating you this much, then you step it up, get wise and make different choices. You tell us you're powerful: so BE powerful, gal. You have that capacity. It's not powerful to do the easy thing or the lazy thing or the thing that's a pattern just because -- especially when you'd get better support doing the alternative -- and moan about the known consequences or blame someone else.

And if -- yet again, you're posting defending your bullying? This site isn't the place for it. We've told you that privately, I'm telling you publicly. Bullying is a system which comes from the exact same place the oppression of women does. Defense of bullying doesn't have a place in women's safe space. Same goes for insulting women for kicks and reporting that here unapologetically or without any evaluation of how NOT to do that henceforth.

P.S. I know you're young, Di, but I also know you're smart. Contiuning to flout the guidelines and policies here, especially when it comes to name-calling women and defending/posting about your IRL bullying, is bullying US. And that's totally not okay.

If telling on the boy would have been wrong, how was hitting him any less wrong? You said yourself it was just a vague thread. So why risk getting suspended and hitting him, rather than just a) walking away or b) telling a teacher.

One thing I am noticing here - You've mentioned a few times that you worked very hard to get back to this school and that being there means a lot to you. Well, if you're as intelligent as you'd like to have us believe, why do you not realize that calling your teacher a 'crack-whore' on a dare and beating up a boy because he vaguely threatened to hit a friend of yours is *not* the way to leave a good impression on your teachers and your principal?

Dianna, I realize that you're in a difficult situation, but you persist on making it worse for yourself. I know that Heather and a lot of others from the AGA have spent a lot a lot of time talking to you about this. We'd love to help you here, but if you're abusing the AGA as a place to come and defend your bullying and name-calling, then that's absolutely not okay and it gets really difficult to try and help you out.